As Valentine’s Day approaches, traditional healers are offering guidance on the use of muthi in relationships, emphasizing its importance for married couples rather than those still dating. According to Limpopo-based traditional healer Ngaka Tsiane, muthi should be reserved for marriages, as couples in dating relationships have not yet committed through the necessary rituals and ancestral introductions. Tsiane warns that using muthi prematurely can lead to complications such as domestic violence or even tragic outcomes when one partner decides to end the relationship.
Tsiane further explains that muthi was historically used by elders to reinforce and protect marriages, ensuring a stable family structure, particularly for the upbringing of children. He notes that when used within a committed marriage, muthi can provide strength and protection, promoting lasting unions. “In our culture, we have specific muthi that helps marriages endure and avoids disputes that could lead to divorce,” he said, adding that the belief in the power of African herbs is key to their effectiveness.
Maria Maponya, another traditional healer from Ga-Makanye near Mankweng, agrees that muthi can be beneficial, but advises caution. She suggests it should only be used when absolutely necessary and for protective purposes. “Muthi can safeguard your relationship and marriage from evil, but its misuse can be harmful,” Maponya cautioned. She also highlighted the importance of seeking reputable healers, as the growing number of self-proclaimed sangomas can lead to dangerous practices.
Ultimately, both healers stress that muthi, when used properly, can be a powerful tool for enhancing relationships, but it should never replace commitment and trust in a union. For married couples, muthi can serve as a protective and nurturing force, ensuring their bond remains strong and enduring.
